Just This One Day

A month after Greg and I hauled our household 38.4 miles south and west, we are still settling in.  Our couches are stuck somewhere in California and we have been walking around boxes and paint cans for weeks. Our living room serves a staging ground for unpacking and sorting, and also as the dog’s other, bigger bedroom. It’s been a month of figuring out where things will go and non-stop organizing—Doing it right, I say, as I methodically label jars of rolled oats and granola, cornmeal, three kinds of sugar and six kinds of flour for the pantry.  We’ve ordered so much shelving and storage stuff, the Post Mistress in Rollinsville and UPS and Fed Ex drivers already know us by name.  For the first time, even our junk drawer is getting an organizer.

Hilda by Duane Byers

I’m not sure what has gotten in to me.  Although I aspire to be tidy, I am tragically messy by nature—a disaster in the kitchen by any chef’s reasonable standard and a harried house-cleaner.  Too often, I run out of time and leave a pile of clothes or stacks of books and papers in my wake.  My closets look like war-zones, the cupboards are a mess.  But something about owning a house has me plowing new fields.  In the past, whenever I walked into the squeaky clean house, I got the same goose-pimply, reverent feeling I once had in church.  If only, I’d think. 

Until now.

Happily saddled for the first time with many rooms of my own, a persistent voice urges me to invest.  So it’s been days on end of methodically folding and shelving, labeling and storing, dividing and stacking.  Perhaps this is what it means to put down roots.  Yesterday, Greg spent an hour planting three perennials, digging out rock and aspen roots, making room for one Snow-in-Summer I’ve carried with me since my days at the High Lake cabin.  Both of us understand, I think, that our circumstances have changed.  We’re courting a permanence neither of us has known. 

It’s a little daunting.  We alternately rejoice and freak out.

The view from the bedroom

Greg openly worries about his “to-do” list while I harbor a darker dread.  “The last time I was this happy in a house, the last time I felt—at last–I had enough room” I confessed to Greg last night, “it burned to the ground.”

And there it is.  My response to loving something deeply is the creeping fear I will lose it.  I had it with Elvis for a good part of his life, and Greg when we first met.  And now the house. I can’t believe our spectacular fortune to have found a nearly perfect home—one with land and huge decks, a woodstove and gas range, not to mention—wait for it—a walk-in closet–for a price that is passing as a more than reasonable given the Front Range’s out of control housing market. Don’t count on it too much, that niggling voice whispers, you could lose it.  My logic?  How could we possibly have found paradise? 

For most of my life, instability has been something like a second skin.  I’ve danced with it so long, I’m not sure how to give it up. 

And then I think about the laundry table and hanging rack I’ve set up next to the washer and dryer—and how absurdly happy I feel in not having to fold clothes on top of the dryer.  I think about my closet which has shelves for shoes and six separate bins for all my foldables and how everything in it has a place and a space.  How it’s been tidy now for nearly three weeks.

When I think of these things, I can finally have some patience for how long it seems to get settled—because as each day passes, I travel a little farther from the part of me that is certain I will lose it all. 

When I found out my beloved Husky Elvis had 3-6 months to live, I started a practice, after my morning meditation, of giving thanks for one more day with him.  In this way, we lived the last 18 months of his life together.  In marking each day with him, in being present, I was able at last to let go of the fear of losing him.  And when it was his time, I let him go with a full and complete heart.    

I’m not saying my current fear will pass overnight, but I am making a promise to myself as I type this to remember to have some gratitude for just this one day and for the place I’ve landed.  To see what’s here instead of what isn’t.  Today, after all, is all any of us really has.  


Liberty at Last!

My one award-winning 4th of July pie

Like a lot of people, I’ve celebrated the 4th of July for the fun, the food, the fireworks.  Not today.  This year I am reveling in what for me turns out to be a profound sense of liberation and there won’t be one flag or float in sight:  Back in May, the artist-lover and I bought a house (a first for both of us) and just a little over two weeks ago (in a lull between book events), we moved up out of the steaming heat of the prairie and back to the blessedly cool mountains. 

I’m back at 8600 feet where I belong.

Always cash poor, I’d never thought I’d own a place of my own, so frankly, if nothing else ever happens in my life, settling in on this acre and a half in a home Greg and I may have to call The Tree House for its view through French doors of the upper half of aspens and pines will be one of my happiest and proudest moments.  Not even publishing a book tops this.

The deck and south facing french doors

I have been candid in my memoir about my tumbleweed childhood, the way my family rolled from place to place, and my deep yearning to put down roots.  I’ve always wanted to be from somewhere, always wanted a place to call my own.  But too often, my place shifted with seasons and jobs and school, along with the inherent instability of renting, something I’ve been doing for thirty-five years. 

Putting that all behind me is like unhooking a heavy backpack after a long hike.  There’s a feeling of weightlessness, relief and a cooling down, a coming to blessed rest.

Pancake breakfast, July 4th, 2018

Owning a house is perhaps my biggest dream, and those people who know me know what it means for me to be back in the woods, with dirt beneath my feet and a shock of stars above at night.  “YOU’RE the mountain,” my friend Jim shouted, wrapping me in his huge arms, when he saw the place. 

Yes, and it’s good to be home.